5 Lessons Learned So Far This Year

1. Perfection is Perception

There is no such thing as perfect. There will never be a guy/gal to fit your perfect description of a mate, there will never be a job that crosses every ‘t’ and dots every ‘i,’ there will never be a friend that never gets on your nerves, there will never be a parent or sibling or family member that never hurts your feelings, but there can be someone that fits you. There can be someone who compliments your flaws, who balances your yang, who you love to see everyday even when they get on your nerves, who you walk away from but still wonder about and that’s what makes them perfect.

Your perception, your choice to accept a person or a situation as it is/they are is what makes it/them perfection.

2. It IS better to have loved & lost than never to have loved at all

I think this should be amended to it is better to have loved and to have been loved. I’ve loved before, however, there’s something about receiving love that fully awakens you. It helps you reach depths of yourself that you never thought you could reach. The confidence you’re given opens your mind to blocks your insecurities had placed on you. You become a better person.

Would I have liked to lose that? Naw.  But having that mind-opening experience outweighs the heart-wrenching pain of losing that love. 

3. The Only Person Holding You Back Is You

You. Your insecurities. Self-imposed limits. The only time it’s too late is when you’re dead. You don’t have to do it like her, you can do it like you. You don’t have to start on their level, you start where you are and you do it because you love it.

You really can do anything you put your mind to unless you tell yourself no.

4. You shouldn’t compare yourself or your talents to others’

You really shouldn’t. Each person was created for different reasons and each person was dealt a different gift even within the same exact gift. For example, you may be a singer anointed to bring people emotional breakthroughs, another may be a singer who is anointed to bring people joy. The two will not be able to deliver the same way in the same area because that isn’t where their gifting is. In the same vein, both may be talented but one may have taken the time to develop their skill set more. If the less skilled person compares themself to this monstrously skilled person, they will be discouraged.

If instead they look to them as inspiration and accept where they are in life, they can build themselves up.

5. Your gifts were given to you for other people

Your gifts are not for you. Your talents were made to be given. People are by nature interdependent and we need each other whether we like it or not (and I personally do not like it but hey, what you gonna do). Someone needs your voice. Someone needs to hear what you have to say. Someone needs your smile. Someone needs your drawings. Someone needs your comforting voice. Someone needs your wisdom. Someone needs your cooking. Someone needs your kind heart. Someone needs your music. Someone needs your organization. Someone needs you.

So be the best you so someone else can be the best them.

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